The Benefits of Trying BDSM in Your Relationship

Discover why exploring BDSM may be the best thing for your relationship! Learn all the benefits to trying BDSM today!




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Did that title scare you or intrigue you? I know I have two types of people who often land on this website- those interested in trying BDSM and those who are a bit intimidated by the whole kink culture!


But, either way we all want the most fulfilling relationships and sex lives possible so often BDSM is thought upon, am I right?







Beginning in BDSM


Firstly, if you’re interested in BDSM already but have no idea where to start I have the thing just for you- my Beginning BDSM masterclass! It’s a new masterclass that is launching and it is going to share everything you need to know as a kink newbie to get started in BDSM.


The masterclass is going to cover the ins and outs of starting your BDSM journey in a safe, fun and tailor-made way! There’s so many different forms of play within the “BDSM umbrella” (as you’ll discover in lesson 02 in the masterclass) that actually you have lots of opportunity to make kink your own.


To make it everything you want and need- and I’m excited to be the helping hand to support you do just that!


If this sounds like somewhere you’d like to begin your BDSM journey then click here to find out more!


Benefits of BDSM for Your Relationship


Onto the reasons why you might consider BDSM for your relationship!


1. There’s something for everyone in BDSM


As I’ve already mentioned, BDSM includes a HUGE range of activities, play and interests. As such there is likely something you’ll be interested in within that range. You don’t have to be a whips and chains enthusiast- it could just be sensory play with gentle feathers!


Related: 10 Ways to Try Bondage







2. It’s so much MORE than what you see in the movies


I feel like this is a HUGE block for people when they hear the term “BDSM”, they think of the portrayal of kink culture in movies. But movies are not realistic, as we know! BDSM in movies is often represented as a really extreme (such as dungeons and serious bondage) or it’s represented completely inaccurately (such as non-consensual play).


If you are intrigued by BDSM but you’re only point of reference is Hollywood, I’d suggest a few more articles from this website (and/ or a google search):


10 Kinky Activities for Beginners


First Time Trying Dominance and Submission? This is What You Need to Know


The Ultimate Guide to Sex Toys (Includes Kinky Ones)


The Dating Site Every Kinkster Should Be Looking At


3. The basic principles of BDSM can help every relationship


The foundation of BDSM is based in respect, consent and communication- these are principles that we could ALL do with practising in our relationships!


If you believe what you see in the movies, as I’ve mentioned, you may consider BDSM dangerous and intimidating BUT it’s the complete opposite. In order to explore BDSM play safely and healthily couples have to communicate clearly and have regular, serious conversations about boundaries, limits and desires. Conversations that really we could all benefit from!







4. Exploration is good for every relationship


One of the key facets to long lasting relationships is development and growth. Now, I’m not saying you have to try BDSM to keep your relationship alive BUT exploration intimately and otherwise is great for keeping the spark going.


Kinky play could be one of those things you try to see if it’s something that can add to the fun in your relationship.


5. It’s easy when you have support


The reason my BDSM products are my best sellers is simply: couples want to try BDSM but they have no idea where to begin! It all seems like a dark, intimidating minefield unfortunately.


However, BDSM doesn’t have to seem like this marginalised community or this “other world”- you’re entitled to experiment in your relationship and have the support to do so.


You can find lots of help to try BDSM online:

  • Fetlife is a great website to find community and ask questions.

  • Kinkly is a useful website for knowledge and advice

  • Fetish isn’t just a dating website, it’s useful to find like-minded individuals and the forums are full of great information


And of course, I have a whole range of BDSM products here to support your journey into everything kink. Shop them here!


Interested in Beginning BDSM?


If you’d like to know more about BDSM and whether it’s something you’d like to explore more as a single person or in a relationship click here to join my new Beginning BDSM masterclass!


I’ll be taking you through the six steps to working out whether BDSM is for you and what BDSM could look like in your life- click here to join me!